The Gift of Being a Mirror: A Reflection on Triggers, Projection, and Growth

There’s a unique and sometimes uncomfortable gift I’ve carried with me for as long as I can remember.

I have a way of surfacing what’s hidden.

Of drawing out people’s sore spots, buried pain, and unresolved truths - sometimes without even trying.

For a long time, I didn’t know what to make of this. It felt like a burden more than a blessing. I’d watch people react to me with intensity - sometimes gratitude, other times defensiveness or blame. I would wonder, What did I do? Why does this keep happening?

But over time, I’ve come to see it differently. Maybe it stems from my early environment-growing up around the teachings of Anne Wilson Schaef, with weekly process groups unfolding in my home. Maybe it’s something innate.

Either way, I’ve stopped seeing it as a flaw.

And I’ve started owning it as a gift.

I Am a Mirror

To be in relationship with me, whether as a friend, colleague, client, or partner, means you may see parts of yourself reflected back that you weren’t expecting.

This is not about judgment or control.

It’s about presence.

And the presence I carry often reveals what has been avoided, numbed, or tucked away.

That’s why to work with me, or to walk closely beside me, requires a genuine commitment to your own personal growth. Not perfection. Not polished self-improvement. But a willingness to pause, reflect, and own what’s yours when it arises.

Because if you’re not ready to meet yourself with compassion and curiosity, it’s easy to project what you’re feeling onto me.

To turn your discomfort into blame.

To make me the problem, rather than exploring what’s being stirred in you.

I say this with love:

If you’re not ready to grow, I may not feel good to be around.

And that’s okay.

Your Reaction Won’t Derail Me

Whether you embrace me or reject me, whether you feel seen or challenged, your reaction will not define me.

I’ve done too much work, walked through too many fires, and reclaimed too many pieces of myself to be thrown off course by someone else’s resistance to their own inner truth.

We’re all on different timelines.

And I trust the process - mine and yours.

Walking Forward in Love and Integrity

This isn’t an invitation for people to stay comfortable.

It’s a call for truth, tenderness, and transformation.

It’s for the ones who are ready to rise.

To break old cycles.

To see discomfort not as something to avoid, but as a portal to deeper healing and wholeness.

If you’re ready to walk that path, whether through one-on-one coaching, group facilitation, or simply in shared conversation - I’m here.

Not to fix you.

Not to change you.

But to walk beside you as you remember who you are beneath the layers.

I don’t claim to have all the answers.

But I do offer love, clarity, and an unwavering belief in your capacity to grow.

And that, I believe, is enough.